I want you to read that title. Do you believe that? In your heart? Do you believe that? I hope you do. And if you don’t, I hope you learn to believe it. Because a majority of my life, I believed the opposite. ‘In order to be loved, I have to be perfect.’ I didn’t even know that’s how I truly felt though. It wasn’t until I began my spiritual journey about 3 years ago that I learned that’s what I believed.
I have to be perfect because people won’t like me if: I don’t have a boyfriend, I’m not married, my hair isn’t straightened, I don’t have my own place, I don’t have a good paying job, I don’t talk, I’m not funny, I’m not witty, I’m shy, I don’t gain more weight, I don’t say ‘yes’, I get angry, I’m sad, I don’t keep busy, I have a messy room, I have a messy car, I don’t keep in contact, I don’t know about football (or any sport really), current events, Star Wars,_______(fill in the blank), I eat a cheeseburger from McDonalds and not an avocado sandwich, I eat an avocado sandwich and not a cheeseburger from McDonalds (I don’t like avocados so that’ll probably never happen haha but you get the point), my grammar isn’t right, I get too excited, I’m not excited enough….the list goes on and on. The belief is ‘ If I’m not perfect, I won’t be loved.’ NOT TRUE. NEGATIVE BELIEF.
If you wan’t to know whether or not you have this belief, ask yourself why you do whatever it is you do. Are you doing it because you truly like it and it makes you happy? Or is it to make ‘society’ happy? To make your parents, your family, your partner, your friends, your boss, the guy or girl at the grocery store happy? Ask yourself that. You don’t have to be perfect. God doesn’t care. The Universe doesn’t care. You know how your dog loves you unconditionally? You can be in your worse state and your dog doesn’t care? They stay right beside in your worse times and best times. That’s how God/the Universe is. You’re already perfect the way you are. You just have to shed all those negative beliefs holding you back and realize that. It’s a journey. And God can help you with that. And he will. You’re loved.