Obsession With Being Pretty

Why are we so obsessed with being pretty?
Who is it we need to impress?
When my 6 year old niece is worried about her looks,
then I know it’s a problem.
The problem is self-love
and needing to get love from others.
When we learn to love ourselves,
we won’t need love from others.
Other’s love will be a bonus.
But believe me, I didn’t learn this the easy way.
I went through an obsession with being pretty phase.
Yeah, most of my life.
I thought I had to be in order to be loved.
Hair needs to be this way.
Body needs to be that way.
Not wanting to go out or be seen unless I looked a certain way.
Who the hell am I trying to impress?
Some strangers at a grocery store?
Some boys who don’t care about me anyway?
Boys, exactly.
I don’t need them to care about me.
The right guy will come.
Don’t worry.

Social media and the obsession with selfies.
“But you said to love yourself.”
Self-love.  Is that self-love?
Or is that insecurity?
Needing to get love from others?
Life can be hell when you’re living for others.
Let go, be you.
Now that’s freedom.
I was doing things for others and not myself,
I knew I needed to change.
It’s funny how it works.
When we start living the life we want,
being the way we want,
and not what others want,
it inspires others to do the same.
It’s a ripple effect.
This is not to shame.
It’s the last thing I want.
I’ve lived long enough with it.
This is to bring awareness.
We do stuff without even knowing why we do it.
Ask why.
We all have an effect believe it or not.
Do we want to have a positive one or
a negative one?
It hurts me to see little girls obsessed with what they look like.
That should be the last thing they’re worried about.
And the only way to teach them is
to show by example.

Self-love/self-partnering: This is a great healing and self-empowerment blog.  I know she focuses on narcissistic abuse but she’s a healer.  Her techniques help with any kind of emotional trauma.
The 10 Most Impactful Ways To Start Self-Partnering Right Now | Narcissism Recovery and Relationships Blog



-Sonja Jackson, OpenHeartTin


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