How dare I say the upside of unemployment, right? Many can tell you the downside of being unemployed. The downside is why we don’t ever want to be in that situation. It’s what most people fear. Well, I’m going to tell you the upside. I have been unemployed for 6 months now. I have found it to be true, when you think positively, more positivity comes your way. So here are 8 positive things about being unemployed:
1. Opportunity to face fears.
Many fears were brought to the surface when I first became unemployed. I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills, I felt worthless and I didn’t want others to think I was worthless, I didn’t know how long it was going to last, and I didn’t have security/safety. I had to process these emotions. With my bills, I haven’t paid them. My car was repoed and my phone was turned off. That still bothers me, I won’t lie. In regard to feeling worthless and others thinking I’m worthless, that is an inside job. Once I started loving myself and believing in myself than what everyone else said didn’t matter. I still don’t know how long it’s going to last, but I’ve made it this far, I think I’ll be okay. Security is something I’m still struggling with. I have to depend on others and that is something that is very hard for me to do. I have trust issues. That leads me to the next upside.
2. Opportunity to gain faith.
I am learning to trust God with any financial issues and any worries in general. If I didn’t, my mind would probably explode. It’s funny because I always seem to have money pop up somehow. It’s not a lot, but it’s more than what I had. Five dollars here, ten dollars there. I always have a place to stay. I have food. I know I’ll be taken care of and I know this is happening for a reason. I don’t know why, but I’m learning to trust that there’s a reason and one day I’ll see it. I just have to keep the faith. I usually meditate/pray every morning. That’s when my anxiety is the worst.
3. Opportunity to learn to think positively.
What’s the worst that could happen? I have to remind myself that all the time. I die? What’s so bad about that? I know that sounds awful, but think about it, that’s probably why I could quit my job, I’m not afraid of dying. My mind has a solution for everything even when I don’t have a solution. The solution when I don’t have a solution is give it over to God. Acknowledge that you’re scared, acknowledge that you’re worried, but replace them with positive thoughts. I listen to positive affirmations on Youtube. That helps.
4. Opportunity to learn self-love/compassion.
You learn to have compassion for yourself because no one else sure as hell does. Haha not true. I have a lot of people in my life who support me. I’m thankful for that. But I also have a lot of people in my life who don’t support me. People assume I sit on the couch all day watching TV. Again, not true. I get into arguments about how I’m not sitting on the couch all day. THAT is what I do haha. So I have to have compassion for myself. I know what I want to do. That’s their truths, not mine. And vice-versa. I have to remember that.
I don’t have to listen to anyone boss me around and treat me like a slave. I don’t have to meet any sales goals. I don’t have to deal with people’s attitudes (except family). I don’t have to be at a place that makes me unhappy. I don’t have to worry about being late and traffic and my car not working and gas. I’m not chained. I get up when I want to. I go to sleep when I want to. Freedom.
6. Motivation to figure out what you want.
Being unemployed makes you figure out quickly what is you do want. You have plenty of time. It’s also because of fear. I realize I love helping people and I love writing. How I’ll make a living out of that, I don’t know. I give it over to God.
7. Opportunity to learn to budget and live simple.
I don’t have an income so when someone gives me money, I stretch it out. Everything is simplified. I go to the Dollar Tree. I walk a lot instead of driving (when I did have my car, and even without it). Reading, listening to music, meditating, writing, walking/hiking, hanging with friends at home are my sources of entertainment. I do chores around the house, play with the dogs, cook sometimes, and watch movies. That’s been my life for the past 6 months. Sleep and eat.
8. Learn to follow your intuition.
Besides having faith and thinking more positively, this is probably the biggest thing I’ve learned. Not just from this situation though. Your soul will guide you. When it is time to do something, your soul will let you know by the constant thoughts in your mind. For instance, I knew to quit my job because for an entire month, I would think about quitting. So eventually I just quit. A quote I follow, it’s from Joanne Walmsley (Joanne Sacred Scribes),
“the best decisions will make you feel happy within yourself.”
That’s how I live my life. If it doesn’t make my soul happy, then it’s not what I want. I started blogging because I kept thinking about it until I just finally did it. But just because you constantly think about something doesn’t mean you should follow it. Sometimes it’s fear. That’s why I had to learn to meditate. I have to be in a quiet mind state and then I can listen to my soul.
But there is my list. The upside of being unemployed. Thank you for reading. And to anyone unemployed, keep the faith.
-Sonja Jackson, OpenHeartTin