I have this quote posted everywhere on this blog haha. It’s because it inspires me when I’m starting to doubt myself. And I figure, hey, if it inspires me, share the wealth, maybe it might help inspire others too.
Let life flow.
The reason change is so difficult for many of us is because we fight it instead of going with the flow. I always used to try and control/fix everything in my life. When something didn’t go the way I wanted it to or someone didn’t behave the way I wanted them to, I would try to fix (control) it or them.
When my ex didn’t want to commit, I did everything I could to prove my worth, to make him want to. We were on and off four years before I let go. And then two years after that, I still kept in contact hoping he’d change. I just called him after a year of no speaking to tell him how I STILL feel. Honestly, I fought calling him then too because I didn’t want to get hurt again, but after days of it being on my mind, I called him. When I fell into a depression after we broke up, I tried fighting the depression. I tried fighting the pain. Actually, me holding onto him for that long was me trying to fight the pain. I knew early on he didn’t want to commit. When I quit my job last year, I fell into a depression. I tried to fight that too. Instead of allowing the feelings to flow. Moral of the story, I do not like pain and I’m a fighter when it comes to it.
Fighting change only makes it worse. There are people in my life who I love who are emotionally unavailable right now. They may be that way forever, but I haven’t given up faith. I have learned to stop trying to force them to be something they are not and accept them as they are. And accepting them as they are for me has involved letting them go and/or limiting contact. No more trying to “fix”.
Change will always happen. It doesn’t have to control us if we go with the flow. Trust that it’s happening for a reason and that it’ll be okay. I have found life to be much more peaceful when I give my worries to God and I trust that everything will work out when it is time. I know it’s easy to say, but to do, is a different story. Trust everything is perfectly fine right now. This is how it’s supposed to be.
-Sonja Jackson, OpenHeartTin