Online Dating

So I decided to put myself out there.  And out of all places…Tinder haha.  I know, hold on.  The last time I tried online dating, I was in my early 20’s and I went on eHarmony.  I did a 20 page questionnaire (maybe a little exaggeration, but I remember it was a lot)  to find out they could not find any matches.  Even eHarmony couldn’t find me a match.  Am I that complicated??  It broke my heart a little.  I haven’t been on since.

A year later, I started a new job and that’s where I met my ex.  Been chasing him ever since.  Since he’s got a girlfriend and they’re moving in together, I figure I should move on now.  My God, that sounds so pitiful.  Anyway, I went on Tinder.  It took me probably ten minutes at most to set up my profile.  Throw five to six pictures up there, boom.  It says my name and age.  I didn’t understand how it actually worked though.  “Swipe right”, they say.  Swipe TO the right or swipe FROM the right?

Honestly, I didn’t know what I was doing the first few swipes, but I got a match.  (It’s Swipe TO the right.)  I don’t even remember swiping him.  My first match.  So I go look through his profile.  He’s got all these precious pictures with his daughter.  He’s got MY dream car (Jeep Wrangler).  He’s in nature.  He has a nice face (I told him that too.  And body).  I figured I was getting catfished.  But I messaged him and he messaged back.   We’ve talked.  It hasn’t really gone anywhere, but I try to look at the positive side of it – I put myself out there.  I think that’s a good thing.  That’s a step.  No regrets.

I don’t know if I’m going to stay on there though because there are only pictures of people.  I feel bad.  That guy I just swiped could have been an awesome person, but I don’t know because all I see is his picture.  It makes me feel shallow haha.  I don’t like it.  For me, I need a connection.  That’s big to me.

-Sonja Jackson, OpenHeartTin

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