So I decided to put myself out there. And out of all places…Tinder haha. I know, hold on. The last time I tried online dating, I was in my early 20’s and I went on eHarmony. I did a 20 page questionnaire (maybe a little exaggeration, but I remember it was a lot) to find out they could not find any matches. Even eHarmony couldn’t find me a match. Am I that complicated?? It broke my heart a little. I haven’t been on since.
A year later, I started a new job and that’s where I met my ex. Been chasing him ever since. Since he’s got a girlfriend and they’re moving in together, I figure I should move on now. My God, that sounds so pitiful. Anyway, I went on Tinder. It took me probably ten minutes at most to set up my profile. Throw five to six pictures up there, boom. It says my name and age. I didn’t understand how it actually worked though. “Swipe right”, they say. Swipe TO the right or swipe FROM the right?
Honestly, I didn’t know what I was doing the first few swipes, but I got a match. (It’s Swipe TO the right.) I don’t even remember swiping him. My first match. So I go look through his profile. He’s got all these precious pictures with his daughter. He’s got MY dream car (Jeep Wrangler). He’s in nature. He has a nice face (I told him that too. And body). I figured I was getting catfished. But I messaged him and he messaged back. We’ve talked. It hasn’t really gone anywhere, but I try to look at the positive side of it – I put myself out there. I think that’s a good thing. That’s a step. No regrets.
I don’t know if I’m going to stay on there though because there are only pictures of people. I feel bad. That guy I just swiped could have been an awesome person, but I don’t know because all I see is his picture. It makes me feel shallow haha. I don’t like it. For me, I need a connection. That’s big to me.
-Sonja Jackson, OpenHeartTin